Husband deployed 4 months after our baby was born. He was gone for 7 LOOOOONG months. That was a rough time to say the least.
If you know my delivery story, then you know I was a probable candidate for postpartum depression. In retrospect, I probably DID have it and should have sought counseling. It was my pride that stopped me. Knowing that my husband was going to deploy was a raincloud over my shoulders.
That day we dropped him off at the dock was one of the saddest days of my life. I went numb that morning. I just didn’t want to feel. Because if I did, I wouldn’t have been able to function. I had to stay strong for him. I had to stay strong for our son.
Once Junior and I got home, that’s when I lost it. Here I was, a brand new parent, left with a baby. A difficult baby to boot. (Junior can be a diva but that’s a story for another day.) So what have I learned from life with a new baby and a deployed husband?
Here are 36 Rules for life with a new baby when husband is deployed:
- I will feel like crap
- House will look like crap
- Babies will cry
- I will cry
- Sleep > Food
- Junk Food > Healthy Food
- Showers might not happen every day
- Baby drool in your hair will.
- Phone will be full of baby pictures to send
- 85% of baby pictures will be blurry
- Surprise phone calls from him are absolute bliss
- Missed phone calls are absolutely devastating
- It sucks when you can’t say “your turn”
- You want to cry when you see how much baby reminds of his/her daddy
- Thank God for caffeine
- There will always be “stuff that you didn’t get to yet”
- You wonder if you can pay someone to do that “stuff” for you
- 5 seconds after your drop the baby with a sitter, you feel this amazing relief
- 5 minutes after you drop the baby with a sitter, you want to call and make sure they’re doing ok
- 5 hours after you drop the baby off with a sitter, you want your baby back
- You get takeout (again) because you would rather play with baby than have to cook or clean
- You chat up strangers just because they are pregnant or have a small child
- All you want to do is shower in peace
- You will wonder how your stay-at-home-mom friends do it.
- You will wonder how your working-mom friends do it.
- You will wonder how single parents do it.
- You will respect every single parent: past, present, and future you come upon.
- You are petrified that something might happen to you while he’s deployed and no one will be there to take care of the baby.
- You will feel so proud when baby accomplishes something new
- You will get a little bummed that Daddy wasn’t around to see it
- You will get so overwhelmed that you just break down
- Baby will babble nonstop
- EXCEPT when you put them on the phone with daddy, then they’re mutes.
- Baby Cuddles make you feel better… and less alone
- You will fight about who has it worse
- You have to remember that you are with the baby and they aren’t. They definitely have it worse.
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